A: The wife after giving birth cannot be satisfied
Mr. Wang, 38 years old, business manager
For the feeling of a woman like a wolf like a tiger, Mr. Wang is now a little bit overwhelmed. He said: Before the wife gave birth, our sex life was perfect and harmonious. However, in the years after she gave birth, her sexual desire was very strong, and she had sex 3-4 times a week, but she was still not satisfied.
In order to solve the problem of his wife's lack of sexual satisfaction, Mr. Wang and his wife went to the hospital for a physical examination, and the result was that both parties' bodies were normal. They have also tried a variety of postures, but it still doesn't work; they go to a specialty store and try this ring and that device, but it still doesn't work. This situation is stressing me out and I feel like I'm getting worse and worse.
B: As I approached middle age, I became frigid
Ms. Hu, 35 years old, company manager
Who said that women are like wolves and forty like tigers? I think this statement is sheer nonsense! Since I ran for the fourth year, my husband and I have lost our passion in life. We used to do it two or three times a week, but now I feel sick when I mention it. Now I don't want to anymore, my husband and I are very distressed. I think it's "Women will be transgender and cold in middle age", right!
First of all, the period of sexual activity is different for men and women.
Men's sexual activity is at its peak around the age of 20, and after the age of 30, sexual needs and abilities begin to slowly decline↓.
The active period of a woman's libido can be maintained from around the age of 20 to around the age of 40. Especially, most women often do not usher in their sexual peak until they are around 30 years old.
Reasons for high sexual desire in middle-aged women
1. Before the age of 30, many women are "sex blind", and they gradually let go after they understand sex.
First, sex is a skill that practice makes perfect. Before the age of 30, most women are "sex-blind" and do not have enough knowledge and skills, so they don't know how to enjoy. After the age of 30, they got rid of the greenness, became more comfortable with sex, and knew how to make themselves happy.
2. Middle-aged women have higher expectations for life and have enough energy.
At this time, most women have completed the responsibilities of establishing a family, raising children and developing their careers, and have higher expectations for life and enough energy.
3. After the age of 30, the male hormones in the female body increase rapidly, thereby driving sexual desire.
There are also related studies that suggest that male hormones are a key factor in determining female libido. As women age, their levels of male hormones also increase, resulting in greater libido.
4. With the increase in the number of sexual activities, vaginal relaxation is also the reason why middle-aged women are not sexually satisfied.
Some women will have a certain degree of relaxation in their vaginas after giving birth, so there is often no reason for sexual satisfaction during sexual intercourse. For women with postpartum vaginal relaxation, the exercise of the pubococcygeus muscle can enhance the elasticity of the vagina and its surrounding muscles, which can help to regain the feeling before childbirth.
If one party has a strong sexual desire, what should the other party do?
1. Don't refuse the other party's request, otherwise there may be two results:
First, it is inconsistent with the physical needs of the other party, causing physical and mental pain;
Second, it hurts the other party's enthusiasm and suppresses the other party's sexual desire.
In the long run, there may also be various sexual dysfunctions. .
2. Learn more and accumulate more.
Harmony in the sexual life of husband and wife requires learning and experience, and then a high degree of tacit understanding and harmony can be achieved. The essence of sex is a high degree of intimacy and communication between the two parties, not only sexual intercourse, but also many other non-coital ways.
3. The man cannot resist his wife, and there are also factors that cause his own sexual function to decline.
A middle-aged man in his 30s and 40s has to deal with the old and the young at home, his wife in the middle, and the bloody turmoil of the workplace outside, which greatly diverts his interest and energy, and has become rational in terms of sex. , The body is not allowed to indulge as in the youth, even if the wife is normal sexual desire, the man may find it difficult to resist. Therefore, there is no need to feel guilty, and full communication is the solution to the problem.