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Although I don't think it's a big problem to wear a condom to be soft, after all, I'm someone who can sleep with an impotent man for one night. But I later found out that this problem is really quite common.
do not be afraid! It's not a big deal! Because a man's erection is not that simple and taken for granted, it requires extreme mental and physical relaxation. Men will encounter this situation many times in their life. It is not a disease (except pathological impotence). It can be adjusted slowly through some means and methods to reduce the probability of erectile dysfunction.
Everyone has it, so don't be too nervous and wonder if you can't do it, we have to have confidence.
You have to believe me, although I have no impotence, but I have slept with impotence!
First of all, we need to know that erectile dysfunction has two causes.
1. Physiological reasons
No, then please see the second point! ! ! !
2. Psychological reasons
Physiological reasons refer to physical discomfort. On the one hand, it may be that there is too much masturbation at ordinary times, the threshold of sexual pleasure is high, and men who are accustomed to masturbation may need more intense stimulation to experience sexual pleasure, and wearing a condom will reduce the pleasure, resulting in weakness as soon as wearing a condom. On the other hand, because the foreskin is too long, there is no feeling after wearing the condom, resulting in weakness.
Psychological reasons, just one. Say it and you may not believe it - because of nervousness.
Okay kidding.
Anxiety, tension, fear, etc. are all psychological reasons for not being able to get a normal erection.
Normally, wearing a condom or not should not affect an erection. If sexual intercourse is performed normally, the male genitals need to be engorged and hardened to complete the process. If you're feeling weak and unable to get an erection, don't worry too much about it.
If the whole process of making love is not pleasant, then both parties need to communicate and resolve to improve the whole child's sexual experience. I tell you that it is not a big problem to be soft as soon as you wear a condom, it is to make you face up to yourself, improve your sexual function, and let the next girl who plays cards with you have a good experience, not to affirm your sexual function - "No Just can't get hard! I can feel good even if it's nothing!"
Again: not to praise you for being slutty, but to improve your sexual function and make you happier next time you play poker. For both of you, ok?
1. Lower the pleasure threshold.
Here I need to criticize some low sensitivity, ejaculation needs a lot of stimulation / a long time (long time inability to ejaculate is considered to be ejaculation disorder, not very good sexual function), take these "long periods" as your own work sign of the male.
The basics, which have been emphasized many times before, will be emphasized again: the longer the time, the better. Too long mechanical thrusts will make the woman very uncomfortable, and ten minutes of playing is enough if the foreplay is sufficient. I really don't want to sleep a second time with a man who doesn't ejaculate for half an hour. Your voice is hoarse. You still don't ejaculate and wait for a rocket?
So what are the ways to lower the pleasure threshold?
Appropriately reduce/control the frequency of masturbation, and learn to wear a condom when masturbating.
The benefits are:
Clean and hygienic; let you get used to the texture of the condom, so it won't be repelled and won't be weak the next time you have sex.
Probably something like this:
On a quiet and unremarkable night, you bought a box from the canteen and put it in your pocket and walked home with the cool night wind. , turn on the VPN, enter www.porn***.com in the address bar, pick a pair of good-looking tits, start stroking your genitals, wait for the auspicious time, tear open the package with your teeth, swipe it neatly, and put on a condom! When the phone is howling vigorously, you can start your show.
Don't be nervous and don't be afraid.
Im watching you.
2. Stay focused, don't be nervous
You may have heard that the first time a virgin will be seconds, in fact, the first time you can't get up/second/can't ejaculate, it's all because you're too nervous - haven't experienced it before! I don't know if I can play well, I'm excited and nervous, it's naturally reflected on the equipment.
It's the same with regular sex.
If it is said that the other party is a person they like, and they happen to be sexually experienced/virgins, some men are worried that they will not perform well, which will naturally lead to hardening and softness as soon as they wear a condom.
And the frustration this time is very easy to form a vicious circle, leading to the fear of sexual intercourse the next time.
Here you need to fully communicate with your partner and conduct sexual psychological training.
Through neuromuscular relaxation training, anxiety can be alleviated and various behavioral maladaptive manifestations caused by anxiety can be changed.
Early stage: stroking training with a partner. Both parties relax, exploratory stroking on the bed removes the tension from skin-to-skin contact.
Mid-term: Teach your partner to touch and stroke your penis with your hands.
Note: It is necessary to maintain the continuous erection of the penis during the whole process of sexual activity. If it subsides, it means that the sexual ability has decreased. This view will bring great psychological pressure to the client. You can get an erection by touching your genitals with your partner, and then let the erection subside naturally. The practice of alternating between erection and subsidence can greatly reduce the psychological burden of the client.
Late stage: During sexual intercourse, the partner can use the female upper position to carry out accommodation activity training.
Before each vaginal accommodation training, still follow the process of hugging and kissing, full body stroking, erection several times after penis stroking, and then inserted into the vagina. When the penis is inserted into the vagina, it is enough to enter 3 to 5 centimeters in the initial stage. It is not required to be fully inserted, and it is not necessary to force the insertion time to be too long. From the man's point of view, this can further reduce the pressure on the mind and make the erection more durable; from the woman's point of view, it does not affect the sexual satisfaction, because the sexually sensitive part of the female vagina is in the first 1/3 of the vagina.
Other reasons, such as not enough rest, too fatigue, too long foreskin, too tight condoms, etc., are all you can solve as long as you think about it, so I won't go into details here.
From my personal experience, impotence and premature ejaculation are not a big problem. The main thing is that you have to have this awareness yourself. You can't hold 3cm and tell me that I'm not tight enough, or you will go to heaven after being busy for two minutes and ask me out of breath. After a few orgasms, you have to know that you may not be that good at work, and then find a way to improve it. Don't insist that you are strong, or have an inferiority complex and dare not play cards. Find a partner who respects you, and the two of you are happy.
Face yourself ha! Both boys and girls! Regardless of equipment or body, if you have it, you can change it if you don't. In short, there are four words: suitable. Porn can be used as a tool to stimulate sexual desire, not as a sex collection, otherwise both parties will have a poor sexual experience.
I was very happy when I wrote this article. After all, everyone is aware of wearing a condom. They asked me what to do if I wore a condom, instead of asking if I would be okay if I didn't wear a condom...
This is progress!
Although I have said it many times, I still have to repeat it again: Except for long-term stable sexual partners who have taken other contraceptive methods at the same time, everyone must wear a condom during sex. Especially boys! Make an appointment with a one-time card opponent to let you run without a condom! The farther you run, the better!
