In the past, people thought that it was normal for women not to reach orgasm within one to two years after marriage, but with the harmony of sexual life and the proficiency of sexual skills between husband and wife, the highest state of this most beautiful sexual life was developed. Come out, women's desire for sex life is obviously enhanced after they get orgasm, and the folk opera is called "Thirty is like a wolf, forty is like a tiger". The peak of male sexual ability is around the age of 20, and it has been declining since then. No wonder some sexologists have proposed that, from the perspective of sexual ability and sexual desire, a 20-year-old man marries a 30-year-old woman, That is, boys and girls are the perfect match for each other. But in the past ten years, people's concept of sexuality has gradually changed, from the rejection of sex to the acceptance of sex, and the change of women's concept is even more significant. Therefore, the experience of women's orgasm is obviously advanced. In some open-minded women, there is no so-called development process at all, and the wedding night can also enjoy orgasm.
However, not everyone has orgasms, and women who can achieve orgasms cannot achieve orgasms every time they have sex. There are many factors that affect their health. According to statistics from foreign scholars, 4% of women reached orgasm when they were newly married, and 50% of them reached orgasm within a few years. Chinese scholars surveyed 200 aged women and found that 50% never had orgasm. Another data shows that 10% of couples reach orgasm every time they have sex, and 48% of them often reach orgasm.
1. The influence of negative sexual concepts formed during adolescence. Many women received inappropriate sex education during their teenage years or childhood. According to psychoanalytic theory, these negative sexual concepts are hidden in the bottom of the heart in the form of subconsciousness, and they have a negative impact on adulthood. Sexual attitudes and behaviors can have far-reaching effects on life. For example, a daughter who grew up in a divorced family accepts her mother's point of view since she was a child, and believes that all men in the world are unreliable and are all heartless. And blame the ups and downs of life on the existence of men. After the daughter grows up, although she can get married and have children, she lacks passion for sex, and naturally it is not easy to achieve orgasm.
2. Lack of sexual knowledge
If women want to achieve orgasm, they must have corresponding psychological preparation and good foreplay, so that women can achieve obvious sexual excitement. Men should caress the erogenous zone of women, and it should be done gradually and not in a hurry. Men should also be aware of some of the signs that women are sexually aroused, such as breast enlargement, the appearance of sexual flushing, clitoral bulge, swelling of the labia, darkening of the girdle, and vaginal discharge. If you don't understand these common senses, you will be anxious for penis penetration, vaginal pain in women, natural aversion to sexual intercourse, not to mention orgasm.
3. Sexual environment
Sex life is a very private activity. No one else can participate except the couple. If the sex life environment is not safe, such as sharing a room with other people, or the walls are not soundproof, you are worried that there will be ears on the partition wall or that someone will temporarily disturb you, etc. , will cause mental tension, energy is not easy to concentrate, will naturally affect the arrival of orgasm. Couples in modern families not only need to keep doors and windows closed, but also take down phones, turn off pagers and cell phones, etc., to ensure that they are not disturbed by accidents.
4. Illness or illness
Some women avoid having sex with their husbands when they are unwell, but they are unable to do what they want, and they are worried that their husbands will be dissatisfied, which will naturally affect their orgasm.
5. No safe birth control
Some young men and women have sex without taking safe and reliable contraceptive measures, because they are too worried about whether it will cause pregnancy, mental stress, and it is impossible to achieve orgasm.
6. Adverse sexual experiences in early life
Individual women have had bad sexual experiences at a certain period before marriage, such as rape, seduction, and abandonment after premarital sex, so that after formal marriage, their past experiences are obviously affected. Some women worry about hymen problems, which can be both offensive to sex and guilt that can interfere with orgasm.
7. Husband sexual dysfunction
Some women are completely normal, but the husband has sexual dysfunction, especially premature ejaculation, so it is almost difficult for women to achieve orgasm. If the husband knows how to caress the clitoris or the mouth and the genitals, some women can achieve clitoral orgasm, otherwise it is impossible to achieve clitoral orgasm. No orgasm.
Multiple orgasms that can be encountered and rarely sought, the ability of women to have multiple orgasms is recognized by the world, but there are still a large number of women who have not gotten one orgasm. It can be said that there is still a long way to go to achieve multiple orgasms. It is a process of hard study and practice. Whether or not men have multiple orgasms is still debated. Chinese Taoist theory and ancient house techniques both advocate the preservation of semen and not ejaculate, but they do not oppose sexual intercourse with women. This is sexual pleasure without ejaculation, which is called "union without ejaculation". Westerners believe that the ancient Chinese were well aware of the difference between ejaculating and non-ejaculating orgasms. Successfully mastering the techniques needed to achieve the latter avoids that stubborn period, allowing them to have more copulation time with many non-ejaculatory orgasms. In the past, some scholars have pointed out that because of the short refractory period after ejaculation, men around the age of 18 can regain their ability to ejaculate when the penis is not completely weak, so they can repeat sexual intercourse and obtain multiple orgasms.
Female orgasm is divided into clitoral type, vaginal type and mixed type, and vaginal orgasm is also called termination type orgasm, there is a sense of satisfaction, no longer want to have sexual intercourse, similar to refractory period, only clitoral orgasm is prone to recurring, Therefore, the acquisition of multiple orgasms in women is mainly to stimulate the clitoris directly or indirectly. Of course, prolonged sexual intercourse can also cause multiple vaginal orgasms. This is because women do not have the same problem as men's penis weakness after ejaculation, and can have intercourse for a long time, enough to drag out the "refractory period".
If a man wants to obtain multiple orgasms, he must find the critical point before ejaculation through continuous training during masturbation or sexual intercourse, and stop sexual stimulation when he has obvious pleasure but does not reach the ejaculation threshold. It is equivalent to having a few orgasms without ejaculation and an orgasm with one ejaculate. Women should first get more than one clitoral orgasm, and finally get vaginal orgasm. The former is mainly a means of caressing, and the latter is the real sexual intercourse.
Difficulty synchronizing orgasms
There are many books that describe the simultaneous orgasm of both men and women as the best state of sex life. This gives people the illusion that there is always something wrong or imperfect about men and women not being able to achieve orgasm at the same time. Starting from the physiological characteristics of both sexes, women's orgasm should be as early as possible, and men's orgasm should be as late as possible.
This is because women have the ability to have multiple orgasms, the duration of sexual intercourse is prolonged, and they can enjoy the pleasure of multiple orgasms, while male orgasms usually occur at the same time as ejaculation (in special cases, multiple orgasms can also occur, It is discussed in the section of multiple orgasms that can be encountered and sought), so it should be delayed as much as possible, otherwise, once ejaculation, the arrival of orgasm also means the end of sexual intercourse, and women will no longer have the opportunity to obtain orgasm. Physiologically, male ejaculation is equivalent to female orgasm. However, only men classify premature ejaculation as a sexual dysfunction and need to be treated. Men's late ejaculation is often regarded as a manifestation of strong sexual ability and does not require treatment. Women's "premature ejaculation" (fast orgasm) is considered to be a A sign of normal or high sexual performance, while women with late ejaculation (difficulty in reaching orgasm) are classified as sexual dysfunction and require treatment. Also -- things, normal or not, are determined by gender, which is kind of funny indeed. The reason for this is that people want to combine two events that are not easy to happen at the same time as much as possible.
In normal sexual life, men should try their best to control and prolong ejaculation time, so that women can reach orgasm before that. The standard practice is for women to achieve clitoral orgasm first. This process is mainly based on caress. Hand or mouth and genital contact is the key to clitoral orgasm. Sexual intercourse can stimulate the clitoris directly and indirectly and continue to clitoral orgasm. May induce vaginal orgasm. End sex with vaginal orgasm. Men's ejaculation time and women's vaginal orgasm time should be close, not completely synchronized. Some people prefer to clearly experience the vaginal contractions and tight hugs and the contented "bed cries" during female orgasm. These pleasures cause men to ejaculate unbearable and controllable, making it more pleasurable when they reach orgasm.
