Recently, a girl in the background sent us this message for help:
My boyfriend and I have been in love for a year and finally achieved fruition and started living together. Recently, I have been "popping" very frequently. Generally speaking, my sex life is relatively harmonious, but there has always been a problem. My boyfriend doesn't like wearing condoms. I don't want to take medicine, so he always doesn't wear a condom, which is very unsafe. I feel very uneasy every time after the procedure, but he always reassures me that I won't get pregnant if it's all right.
I just wanted to ask everyone, is wearing a condom really that uncomfortable? Are there really situations where you can't orgasm while wearing a condom? I can't bear to refuse his bareback sex what should I do?
In fact, we have written a lot about the popular science about condoms before, but every time it is associated with sex life, in the process of practical operation, girls will always encounter all kinds of new problems that we have not talked about.
For example, seeing this question, some girls who are jealous of hatred may want to rush to answer: "Bah, he just made an excuse not to wear a condom, and persuaded the girl to break up quickly!"
Of course, it is not ruled out that there are such boys who "know that they are scumbags", but to tell the girls, there really is a situation where "it is difficult for men to reach an orgasm with condoms". Today, Qumei will bring everyone to rise." new pose".
Do condoms really affect male orgasms?
Male condom-related erection problems, also known as CAEP, can usually occur when a condom is used incorrectly or when an inappropriate condom is chosen.
A team of American and British researchers surveyed 479 heterosexual men between the ages of 18 and 24 who were asked to answer questions about erections and condom use. Participants also completed the International Index of Erectile Function (IIEF), an assessment tool that can help doctors diagnose erectile dysfunction (ED).
The results of the study showed that about 38% of men did not have erection problems caused by wearing a condom, about 14% had CAEP while wearing a condom, another 16% reported having CAEP during intercourse, and 32% reported having CAEP during intercourse. % experienced CAEP while wearing a condom and during sex.
Occasionally, men with CAEP may experience erectile difficulties even without using a condom. A 2015 study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that men with CAEP, who may also have problems without condoms, were more likely to have mild to moderate ED.
The reason for this situation has not yet been determined. Some scholars have suggested that it may be because males are distracted by condoms during sexual life and affect erection, and these CAEP patients may need more time and stronger stimulation to obtain sexual arousal.
And CAEP can make men anxious whenever condoms are used, so male partners with CAEP may be inclined to have sex without condoms, which creates a number of health risks.
Note that while the situation does exist, it's not unsolved, and the researchers note that sex therapy or education about how to use condoms may help men with CAEP. In the study, 37 percent of men who used condoms never learned how to use them properly.
So, if your boyfriend is determined not to wear condoms using this as an excuse, girls, please put this sentence "pia" on his face: it's all because you don't learn how to use condoms! Go to school soon!
So, apart from the CAEP caused by not using condoms, what other reasons may cause men to be reluctant to wear condoms? There may be the following:
Why doesn't he want to wear a condom?
condom allergy
At present, most condoms that can be purchased on the market are made of latex. Latex condoms have many advantages, but also some disadvantages: First, oil-based lubricants (petroleum gel, edible oil, baby oil, mineral oil, lotion, sunscreen) Oil, etc.) will rupture and lose elasticity of latex condoms; the second is that some people are allergic to latex.
If latex allergy patients use latex condoms, male allergic patients may experience symptoms such as swelling, itching, and even erosion of the yin stem, while female allergic patients may experience symptoms such as yin tract itching, mucosal congestion, increased leucorrhea, and burning pain.
It's actually quite simple to test if your boyfriend is really allergic to condoms. As long as you are allergic to latex, whether it is private parts, hands or face, as long as the skin comes into contact with latex, there will be allergic reactions. The operation guide is as follows: Put the latex condom or latex glove on the bare skin, and observe the latex contact after ten minutes. The reaction of the skin can determine whether it is really allergic to latex.
The condom you bought is not suitable
Whether the size of the condom is not suitable or the material of the condom is too thick or too hard, it will affect the personal experience. Therefore, choosing the size or thin material that suits you can greatly alleviate the discomfort. (Click here to see how to choose the most suitable set)
Does not consider women's feelings
There are also some boys who do not like to use condoms for no reason because they lack normal and healthy sex education and safety awareness, and do not know how to consider women's feelings and physical health. They even boast that using condoms will affect the comfort of sexual life. What's more, she even threatened girls with reasons such as "I don't want to make out with you through a layer of rubber" and "If you love me, you shouldn't force me to wear a condom."
Not to mention, judging from the backstage messages of the girls, there are quite a few scumbags like this. It is recommended that if the girls meet unfortunately, they should quickly kick them off. It’s cool to not wear a condom for a while, but unexpected pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases, etc. Women have to swallow the bitter fruit themselves. How can a man who does not cherish his partner's body expect him to love you for a long time.
Here I also want to remind the girl who asked for help at the beginning, the contraceptive method of in vitro body cunning is not reliable at all, men will flow out of prostatic fluid before body cunning, and prostatic fluid contains Miqingzi, if you happen to come into contact with it Yin said, the liquid enters while it is empty, in this case it is very possible to get pregnant! In addition, there are still some people, especially men who have no sexual experience, who are likely to become "fast men" in such an exciting environment, causing Mi Qing's body inch out, and the probability of pregnancy is much higher!
Sex is a pas de deux, not a one-man show
Let's take a look at the girl's last question, what should I do if I can't bear to refuse his bareback sex?
No matter what the reason is, men who don't wear condoms and have unprotected sex regardless of women's bodies are scumbags!
Old drivers must have known for a long time that if they use condoms correctly, they can greatly reduce the risk of transmission of gonorrhea, chlamydia, trichomonas vaginitis, hepatitis B and AIDS and other diseases. Avoid the risk of miscarriage harming your body.
Men refusing to use condoms is tantamount to putting girls' health at high risk, and women who agree to their partners are also handing over the autonomy of their bodies to those who don't care for them.
To be honest, for adults, everyone has to bear the consequences for their own choices and actions. Wearing a condom is a personal choice. If you feel really uncomfortable wearing a condom, and you are ready to face the consequences, others will naturally have no choice. The right beak, as long as you can enjoy your choice.
But the girl said that she felt very uneasy every time she finished, but it is conceivable that she could not devote herself to this joy of fish and water.
Rather than agreeing to not wear a condom in order to make her boyfriend happy, while worrying about possible safety hazards, it is better to simply refuse at the outset.
Sex is a beautiful duet dance. The ultimate happiness is that both of you can feel pleasure. If he is happy and unrestrained and you are apprehensive, how can it be called love? Injuring yourself is definitely not the way to prove that you love the other person, and it is absolutely impossible for someone who truly loves you to let you love him in a way that hurts yourself.
If you are really unfortunate to meet such a person, then you can also make another choice - change someone, I believe that good girls will always meet people who cherish themselves~
PS: Teach you a little secret of sexual harmony. Doing good foreplay and lubrication can double the happiness, and it can also greatly alleviate the discomfort that condoms may bring~
