Basic Information
Chinese name: love love
Aliases: sex, sex
Explanation: Sexual relations between men and women
Most common groups: adult men and women
sex process
The process can be divided into:
①Foreplay (hugging, kissing, stroking, fondling, teasing, oral sex, titty sex, etc.);
②The male penis enters the female vagina;
③Performing frictional actions (pushing or piston movement, swinging, etc.) can use superb sex life skills to make sex partners more happy and enjoy the process of sex;
④ Trigger orgasm (ejaculation in men, rhythmic contraction of vaginal opening in women, so that both men and women are accompanied by discharge-like sexual pleasure and comfort);
⑤ Continue to perform slower frictional movements (or stand still) to savor the enjoyment of the aftermath of pleasure;
⑥ The male penis is weak and withdraws from the female vagina;
⑦ Wipe the secretions on both genitals;
⑧ After play (stroking, kissing, hugging, etc.).
Specifically, the procedure of sexual life generally has several stages: transmission of sexual signals, flirting (foreplay), sexual massage, coitus activities, orgasm performance and post-event tenderness (after-play).
sexual signals
Refers to the mutual transmission of desires and feelings of sexual behavior between husband and wife. Correct grasp, reasonable transmission of sexual signals is the manifestation of civilization, it is beneficial to enhance mutual feelings and accelerate sexual arousal. Normal couples have the desire to have sex and their own sexual signals, but not everyone can express this desire due to factors such as civilization, reason, and shyness. Usually people express sexual demands in an implicit or implied way, and giving each other a sexual signal in advance is a prelude to a harmonious sexual life.
But some people with no sexual knowledge or unsatisfactory spouses reduce this process. If the male desire comes, there is no sexual signal and can't wait to have sexual intercourse, the woman is unprepared, not only the vagina is dry, the penetration is difficult, but it can also cause pain and refuse sexual intercourse.
The so-called signal is that one party gives hints to the other party with eyes, gestures, language or other special actions. Some couples form an "appointed" date, the husband shaves, the wife puts on makeup, and they are affectionate, and they will send signals to each other between gestures. Some people push it halfway, which is even more charming. Some people use excuses to refuse or coerce them with conditions to punish each other sexually, which eclipses the sexual signal at the beginning and casts a shadow on the psychology of both parties, which is the main reason for sexual disorders.
orgasm
When the erection center is stimulated by sexual intercourse, the sexual excitement gradually accumulates. When the sexual excitement reaches the excitation threshold of the ejaculation center, the parasympathetic nerves are excited at the same time, which causes the spasm of the bladder sphincter and the paroxysmal contraction of the smooth muscle of the vas deferens and seminal vesicles. A series of ejaculation actions to enter orgasm. After orgasm, the sexual center changes from excitation to inhibition, and the parasympathetic nervous system also changes from excitation to inhibition, and erection disappears quickly. During orgasm, the sympathetic nervous system is also excited, which is manifested as thickened breathing, increased blood pressure, muscle twitching throughout the body, and a sense of fluttering.
The female clitoris is the organ that stimulates sexual desire. The labia minora, vagina, urethra and other external reproductive organs also contain erectile tissue. During sexual intercourse, pressure and friction on these parts will cause these tissues to become congested, swollen, hot, and wet. It produces an unconscious muscle activity and a strong desire for the pelvic cavity to approach men and the fullest sense of acceptance of the male penis, that is, the desire for vaginal accommodation (the so-called vaginal hunger), which makes women psychologically satisfied. After intense stimulation, there is a burst of electric shock-like feeling in the whole body, and I am intoxicated, that is, a pleasure orgasm is produced.
sexual aftermath
Or sex after sex, refers to the sexual activity after the completion of sexual intercourse. This is the last link in the chain of sexual intercourse, as a follow-up and supplement to sexual intercourse. There are some differences in the time of the sexual response cycle of men and women. The extinction period of women is longer than that of men. Some women's sexual tension declines in a slope. At this time, they still hope to accept a certain appropriate sexual stimulation. Sometimes, one party does not reach orgasm during sexual intercourse, and additional sexual stimulation is needed. The main forms of sexual aftermath are speech and caress. Neglecting sex or having poor sex is one of the common causes of disharmony in sex life.
The deepest and sweetest happiness that human beings can taste can only be felt in the temporary respite after the complete union of two people who truly love each other. The joy and innerness in the epilogue of sexual intercourse can bring both parties closer than the union in orgasmic bliss; hugging or lying close together, energy recovering, they exchange thoughts, with dreamy emotions, once again, reminiscing about the joy they had just experienced. Even if some women do not have an orgasm, under the hug of an amorous husband, a sense of comfort that cannot be obtained during the sexual response arises spontaneously.
sex skills
Life Foreplay Tips
touch
Women like men to touch women's hands softly. When they touch their hands, there are some hints, which make women's hearts sway, and want men to hold and kiss them. If you feel nervous and tremble when you touch a woman's hand, or do some small movements nervously, the woman will not like it, but will hate it.
handshake and cue
When a man holds a woman in his arms, he moves quickly and violently. Women like a man who wants her so strongly, and then hugs her tightly and sticks her body together, which is inseparable. This is also what most women need. It is indispensable to caress and whisper softly. Men moaning from time to time is also what some mature women yearn for. Women know that men are invested in emotions, and the following has begun to brew. At this point you can hold her tighter and then touch her tits and pussy intentionally or unintentionally to make her feel you.
kiss
The kiss should be hot, soft, long, deep, and live, so that a woman can feel it when kissing. This is the work of a man. Generally speaking, the tongue should constantly touch the woman's tongue in her mouth, sometimes fast and sometimes slow, sometimes you need to kiss with your lips for a while, and sometimes turn your head to change the angle of the kiss. Sit down with a limp woman, preferably on the bed, no conditions can be on the sofa or anywhere. The kiss should continue until the woman's hand begins to stretch towards the lower part of the man, her body is hot and close to the man, indicating that the woman's sexual desire is already very strong. The man can take the next move when the woman has no resistance.
Sexual common sense
female organs
The organ of female sexual intercourse is the vagina, remember not to use the urethra and anus as the vagina for sexual life. While familiar with the sexual genitalia, it can also increase the understanding of sex, and both parties can experience sexual life more perfectly.
sex time
Many people do it before going to sleep, which affects less sleep. At night the two sides are often out of sync. Affect sleep. It is generally not advisable to do it in the early morning of the next day. After sex, both parties often need to rest. Going to work after sex will affect energy.
The adoration, affection, attachment, tenderness that radiates from sexual activity is a wonderful feeling, but sometimes inappropriate ways or behaviors can lead to problems of one kind or another. The following eight situations are very likely to occur in sexual life, and these situations must be dealt with correctly.
about the best time to have sex: Chinese and Western, ancient and modern views vary
We prefer to believe that at any time of the day we can hop into bed and have sex, the question is just the time and the mood.
Wrong, since ancient times, Chinese and foreign medical scientists began to argue about "when is the best time to have sex". We all know the viewpoints of the ancient Chinese, that it is not suitable to have sex "at the time of lightning and thunder", "just after eating" and so on.
The originator of Western medicine, Ter Bisantin, said: "The best time to have sex is two hours after dinner, when you are going to sleep, and the worst time is midnight, when your digestion is active."
Another Italian scholar in the sixteenth century pointed out that the best time to have sex is after a rough meal, when neither hungry nor full, nor sleepy, preferably in the morning.
about the best number of sex
How many times the sex life of different ages is appropriate, this question is more complicated and cannot be stipulated mechanically. Generally, there is no obvious fatigue, lethargy, backache and weakness on the second day of sexual life, and it does not affect work and study. Generally speaking, young people before the age of 30 are 2-4 times a week, 30-40 years old 1-2 times a week, 40-50 years old once a week, 50-60 years old, 1-2 times every 3-4 weeks times, 1-2 times every 4 weeks for people over 60 years old. People should be careful not to pursue the number of sexual intercourse alone, but also to strive for perfection every time. One perfect intercourse is more satisfying than two imperfect ones.
excessive harm
According to the "Healthy Life News" report, multiple sex life refers to having two or more sex lives in one day or one night. Repeated sex life is not good for health.
1. For both men and women, it will cause greater physical consumption. Over time, it will inevitably lead to a decline in physical and mental state, thinking ability, memory, and analytical ability.
2. Due to the continuous and repeated occurrence of sexual impulses, both men and women will increase the burden on the sexual control nerve center and sexual organs, and regular fatigue will cause sexual function failure, resulting in "pre-senile" sexual function.
3. Men often have sex many times, which will prolong the ejaculation time. Because the second time ejaculation appears longer than the first time. This lays down the hidden dangers of inducing impotence, non-ejaculation, delayed ejaculation, and no pleasure in sexual life.
4. Men have a refractory period after sex, that is, they no longer respond to sexual stimulation for a period of time after sex. Repeated sex life will prolong its refractory period, and it is easy to cause sexual function decline.
5. Men often have sex many times. Due to repeated and persistent congestion of sexual organs, it will induce prostatitis, seminal vesiculitis and other diseases, resulting in perineal discomfort, back pain, and blood sperm. Women often have sex many times, and their sexual organs are always in a congested state, which will induce pelvic congestion and a heaviness in the lower body.
6. Regardless of men and women, the degree of sexual satisfaction is definitely worse than the previous one when they have sex multiple times, so it is easy to cause psychological impact, thinking that there is a problem with their sexual ability, which may eventually lead to psychogenic sexual dysfunction.
