Basic Information
Chinese name: flirting
Pinyin: tiáo qíng
Foreign name: make overtures to, flirt
Action: Provoking heterosexual desire
Basic explanation
Both men and women use words or actions to arouse each other's sexual response. Flirting is a kind of flirtation. Women who know how to flirt are more attractive than those who don't. People who think they don't know how to flirt are more attractive than those who know how to flirt, because innocence is more likely to produce charm.
Detailed explanation
teasing and teasing between men and women.
Yuan Gao Wenxiu's "Woodpecker" set: "Thinking in silence, where is this charming person's name, who has never known his face to flirt. He seduces people plainly, and his soul is scattered." The fourth chapter of "School of Foreign Affairs": "So happy! Monk The woman is flirting in the daytime! Good monk and official! Knowing the law and breaking the law!" Yang Mo's "Song of Youth" Part 1 Chapter 2: "When I think of the thing about calling her to get married, plus the sound of mahjong playing at home all night long, The flirtatious voices of men and women...still make her annoyed and miserable day by day."
Don't reject the way of flirting in love, maybe you can use the method of flirting as much as possible to promote the quality of marriage, let lovers feel the beauty of marriage, and make people feel
The word "flirting" is not unfamiliar to people. It is not a good word in people's habits and impressions. It means that the attitude is not serious, provocative and frivolous. Because it is often associated with unhealthy and morally unethical storylines in literature, such as Pan Jinlian in "Water Margin" who deliberately dropped the wooden stick to hold the window on Ximen Qing's head, and so on. Therefore, people are very cautious when using it in life.
The word "emotion" is much more elegant. Saying that someone has emotion is actually implying that someone is a person full of life interest, with affinity, sense of humor, suave and easy, artistic and so on.
In many cases, however, flirting is achieved through flirting. At this point, people seem to be more tolerant and understanding of some of the practices of Westerners. When people see a well-educated man in a film and television work secretly sending a message to a slender, noble woman or having something to say, they will always sigh in their hearts: What a sentiment! When a young girl whistle, or a meaningful "Hi", or an intimate gesture, our response is: look at how energetic people are, how bright the sun is in life! In fact, "flirting" at this time has become straightforward , Cheerful, humorous synonym.
Some people say that "Flirting is the ultimate love show in the art of speech". In an age where individuality and charisma are desperately needed, the role of flirting is self-evident. If it's not lewd and immoral, it's actually a healthy form of entertainment that will brighten up your life and make it more lively, interesting, natural, and human.
Flirting can be a few seconds (lost a look in love), or it can be weeks or months of quips. Through language (sometimes even without language) to make each other's imagination, heart rippling, the result is happy, happy. So, as long as you can grasp the proportions, why can't you create a variety of warm and intoxicating atmospheres?
method
long line flirting
If you're a bit timid and can't maintain confidence in social situations, then "long-term" flirting is more appropriate for you, that is, a distant, fleeting sound to a "merry stranger" sigh. Sometimes you'll experience this "long line" flirt yourself. In its most basic form, someone yells at you, "Oops, sheer beauty." The person is at a distance from you so you don't feel offended, just amused, and truck drivers love it.
"Long-term" flirting is very common, because it does not require a lot of courage and the risk factor is small. Don't be rude when you flirt, your goal is to make someone smile, not a heartbreak, and don't think it's just for men, women can take this kind of blitz as often as they used to.
When one day he was jogging in the park and a woman speeding by on a motorcycle or cabriolet yelled at him, "Hey, lad!" The car whizzed by and there was loud laughter, he would Annoyed? No, he was happy all day.
A recent study found that men find women who flirt more attractive than women who don't, so be bold and just make sure you don't make a bad impression on others. Also, the timing of the "long-term" flirtation should be well-chosen (for example, two in the middle of the night, when walking somewhere in the city, would be inappropriate).
Advanced Flirting
If you're not satisfied with "long-term" flirting and want to have a more permanent communication, consider the following flirting techniques:
The role of praise
The object of compliment should be the other person directly, not just a compliment. If you say, "I like your tie," it will confuse the man whether you like the tie or the person, so you should say something like, "You're wearing that tie so dashing, it Makes your eyes look extra clear."
all ears
From time to time, you nod your head in praise, and after the other party finishes speaking, you should answer quickly after thinking about it for a second. Because, you may have noticed that in a one-on-one situation, the more you think about what to say, the more flustered and tongue-tied you will become. If there is such a cold scene in the conversation, try to bring the topic to what you have already talked about. Instead of rushing to start a new topic, repeating the old words shows that you are paying attention and interested in the conversation just now, so that the conversation can continue, and you don’t have to be constantly searching for the perfect topic to drive the conversation.
help
If she mentions that her car is parked 8 blocks away and she leaves late that night, you can offer to walk with her to pick up the car. If he's carrying a few big bags, you can offer to get him a grocery bag, and if she mentions that she's going to paint the room, you can suggest a store where she can get cheap paint (or offer you Take a brush to help). You want to show that you are willing to help the other person and make his or her life easier, and by doing so, deepen your relationship and increase your understanding.
clarify the problem
Don't talk deep, get to the bottom of things, and inquire into other people's privacy. Questions such as "Where did you grow up?" or "Do you like to watch horror movies?" are lighthearted and appropriate, and show that you want to get to know each other. Please don't ask "too big subject" heavy questions like "What is your purpose in life?" Show a cheerful and easygoing charm You can mention to him that you saw him at that boring meeting, and you can reiterate To bring up a topic she talked about last week, you can tell him you like his new haircut, you can tell her how fascinated you were the first time you heard her laugh.
Four-eye communication
Stare into each other's eyes for more than a second, but don't stare. Then look away and give the other person time to figure out that you are looking at him or her (and not someone else around). Then stare at each other again, this time with a smile. There may be several ways to get to the women's locker room, and you can choose the one you can meet him halfway. Walk in front of him and let him appreciate your beauty. If the road is crowded, you can pretend to pass him by accident, don't make it conspicuous, and walk by with a smile.
touch each other
During a conversation, casually (note: casual, this is the key) put your hand on his arm, and the best time to do this is after the other person has said something extremely clever or particularly funny. You naturally understand the meaning of touch; you are emotional, but be careful not to overdo it.
look directly at each other
If you're sitting side by side, don't just let him see your shoulders. Face him when speaking, which will make the other person feel respected.
get closer
You don't have to spray your breath on his tie knot, but don't stay 3 feet away from him either. Step forward and let him disarm you, don't hold back.
Of course, the above are just suggestions. In certain circumstances and in certain people, some are particularly effective, and sometimes they are not applicable. Find the most comfortable and successful way for you to cultivate your unique mood. once the style is formed, don't be conservative, don't hide it, and spread your charm everywhere.
sex
In a tactile pilgrimage we enter the temple of sex. From simple hand-holding, kissing, to genital contact, a flirt master knows the secrets, and can arouse his partner's sexual organs at the touch of a button. The unity of soul and body is perfect sex, and how to achieve this state is also a pursuit in sex life. A simple but effective solution is to look her in the eye during sex and not bury your head in her chest. This kind of eye contact will evoke endless tenderness in her heart. The power of this tenderness is both deep and shocking, and it can help you achieve the realm of spiritual and physical unity. Try this simple but often overlooked behavior language!
skin
On a piece of human skin the size of a 5-cent coin, there are 25 meters of nerve fibers and more than 1,000 nerve endings. Experts call the skin an "extension of the brain." This is because the skin and the brain are produced from the same embryonic tissue and have an intimate relationship.
The first tactile learning in life is at the moment of being delivered from the mother. The fetus is squeezed out of the narrow birth canal, putting intense pressure on the skin all over the body. Experts believe that this kind of tactile learning has great benefits for children's future development. Those born by caesarean section, lacking this tactile learning, grow up prone to problems with sensory integration: clumsy behavior, poor physical coordination, and poor concentration.
The pharaohs of ancient Egypt used the tips of their fingers to repeatedly move the patient's back to relieve the patient's pain. At that time, people had a deep understanding of the healthy meaning of touch. Massage and acupuncture in modern medicine also promote health through touch.
Humans need a lot of caresses from an early age. Children who lack hugs, kisses and touches, even if they do not lack food, clothing and care, will have dull expressions, depressed mood, and poor physical immunity. Experts call it "skin thirst."
Such children tend to go to two extremes when they grow up: one is to become indifferent and boring, they are deeply unconfident and afraid of being rejected, so they avoid establishing intimate relationships with others; the other is extremely eager to be loved. They are good at disguising themselves with an elegant and sexy appearance, and when the same sex or the opposite sex is crazy for them, they will get great satisfaction deep inside. They will also be madly in love with an idol of Shuiyuejinghua, but they are unable to maintain and feel a long-term and realistic love. once they get the other's feelings, they often feel bored, so they abandon it like a dagger and start again. Next object next round of infatuation. They are best at getting hurt in love again and again.
Even adults are in great need of tactile nutrition. Kind touch makes us feel warm and at ease. People who are often caressed are kind and gentle, and are easy to maintain inner peace and serenity.
Some people are abnormally "ticklish" and can't touch their necks, armpits, ribs, and soles. If you touch their "itchy flesh" intentionally or unintentionally, they will laugh out loud and avoid them. This is really the best way to tease them! Such people are mostly "skin hungry", they lack tactile exercise, are highly suggestive, insecure deep down, and desperate for warmth.
personality
The palm is very warm: such a person is generally energetic and enthusiastic, but easy to be impatient. You can ask him for help if you have something, but don't make him angry.
Cold and wet palms: This person is more face-saving, so don't let him get off the stage in front of others.
When shaking hands more forcefully: like to shake your hand up and down a few times: such a person takes the initiative in communication, you'd better fully respect his opinion.
The handshake is very light and the time is very short, and the touch is released immediately, like avoiding something: this kind of person is usually not very confident, you should carefully discover his strengths, and often praise and encourage him.
sex agency
After humans evolved to walk upright, sexual intercourse became face-to-face. Experts believe that this method is more conducive to caressing during sex, and sex has evolved from animal-based olfactory stimulation to human-based tactile stimulation. . In addition to the range of sexual organs, humans have developed erogenous zones on the front of the body that many animals do not have. Breasts, for example, 10% of women achieve orgasm simply by stimulating their breasts.
In a tactile pilgrimage we enter the temple of sex. From simple hand-holding, kissing, to genital contact, a flirt master knows the secrets, and can arouse his partner's sexual organs at the touch of a button.
Touch seems to be more favored by women, and many women like to be caressed and kissed by each other for long periods of time in the dark. 90% of women like to be touched on a particular part of the body, mainly the ears, toes, mouth and nose, breasts, outer labia, inner labia and clitoris. In addition to these seven parts, each woman often has her own unique sensitive areas, such as behind the ears, hairline, around the navel. The more tactile stimulation is in place, the more a woman can appreciate the mysterious pleasure and pleasure. Tactile stimulation also promotes the secretion of a large number of hormones in women's bodies. These hormones promote blood circulation and tear secretion, which makes women's cheeks appear moving flushed, and their eyes are moistened and watery, adding to their charm.
Try dimming the lights, take his hand on your favorite part of your body, hint him that you want more caresses, and then experience the wonder of the skin with your heart: is he using his fingers or his palm? Is he using his lips or The tip of the tongue? Dry or wet? Thick or soft? Fast or slow? The touch will guide you into a new and wonderful sex garden.
develop haptics
Developing haptics can bring more beautiful experiences. There are some methods like this:
Comb your hair calmly
Professional women are usually very busy in the morning, and many people are in a hurry to comb their hair, just take a comb and brush their hair twice.
And try the fun of brushing your hair calmly: Take a little time out of time to comb through your hair repeatedly for 3 to 5 minutes. The tactile receptors on the scalp are relatively dense and are closest to the brain. The tactile stimulation received by the scalp when combing hair can reach the cerebral cortex and activate the cells in the cortex. You will feel tired as soon as you "comb" and light up, full of energy, and your mood will also be happy. It is said that Su Dongpo likes to spread out under the moon and comb his hair while pacing. How many eloquent poems are "combed" in this way.
walk barefoot
When you are at home, you can take off your shoes and socks, walk barefoot on the carpet, and experience the itchiness on the soles of the feet brought by the rough carpet, which is very comfortable. Walking barefoot can massage the acupuncture points on the soles of the feet, promote blood circulation, eliminate fatigue, restore energy, and increase the ability to resist diseases.
The joy of bathing
Bathing is a great opportunity to develop the sense of touch. The texture of the towel should be slightly rough. The bath balls and bath brushes sold on the market are also good, and natural materials such as loofah are the best. Wipe the whole body under the warm water, every inch of the skin cannot be ignored, and carefully experience the wonderful realm brought by the touch.
tactile perception
Grab an item you know and love, like a stuffed toy by the bed, silk pajamas, a glass vase, a sequined evening bag, or even the pencils and erasers you have on hand. Close your eyes and feel them with the touch of your fingers: soft or hard? fine or rough? smooth or fluffy? to perceive. You will find that everyday objects can feel so strange and wonderful under the touch. Doing this kind of tactile training often will gradually enrich and sharpen your sense of touch, allowing you to experience more enjoyment and fun in this world.
suggest a partner
Our culture is not very accepting of people hugging and kissing in public. But you can use a few tricks to satisfy your tactile thirst.
When changing the dress, you might as well ask him to help you zip up the back zipper, and a large piece of crystal and delicate skin is exposed in front of him. No man would want to kiss Xiangze. You can dine with ladylike elegance in the dining room, but if you touch his thigh with your knee under the table, consciously or unintentionally, he will surely appreciate the love you convey to him. When watching a play in the theater, there was a moment of tenderness and sweetness, and he quickly put his hand in the palm of his hand while taking advantage of the darkness. Also, when you are walking outside in winter, you can say, "My hands are so cold," and then take the initiative to put your hands into the pockets of his trousers... As long as you put a little thought into it, you can make the most of the magic of touch.
Flirting Tips
As the other side of the relationship, a woman should fill herself with more changes to add color to her own charm, which is also an activator to keep her emotional life fresh at all times. A lot of small and subtle methods can add points to your interest index. The big woman Yueji tells you 6 ways to flirt. Be a flirt master and create a wonderful romantic love with one hand!
1. Funny women attract the most attention and want to keep his attention on you? Come on, take it easy, pranks or jokes can make your interactions more intimate.
Whether men or women, humorous women can stimulate people's attention and interest. Although the lively you and the quiet you have different charms in his eyes, what's wrong with letting him see the lively you laughing more? People who love to laugh are easier to make friends than serious people. easy for others to approach. Humor is not a simple joke, it is a reflection of the ability of the mind to respond and the accumulation of multi-element culture. Playing jokes with him playfully, creating a relaxed and happy two-person world in the midst of witty words, can virtually shorten the distance between you a lot!
2. Rub the waist for the other party to relieve fatigue and relax the mind. Although the action is small, it is very considerate.
Doesn't that sound like a romantic thing? It really depends on how you do it. When you feel tired or want to add some interaction for both parties, ask him to massage your waist, neck, shoulders and other parts for you, and feel the body temperature and warm love from the other's fingertips during the process of physical contact. Intimate lovers and couples can naturally do these plain and very warm things for each other. Conversely, you can do the same for him: gently touch his waist and massage it back and forth in circular motions. Its "aphrodisiac" effect is not exciting, but it can bring you closer in gentle and gentle movements.
3. Blinks of different meanings are also a clever source of interest. In fact, flirting is not as complicated as you think!
You will be surprised to find that the eyes have such a magical function, and a little change can achieve an interesting flirtation effect. It can be smiling and encouraging, or it can be slightly taunting and teasing him, or it can be seductive and seductive, which is almost frivolous, but it is completely normal and interesting between the two of you. What's especially surprising is that its flirtatious effect is absolutely unexpected. A subtle look can make him understand more quickly than a sentence. Your sexy look may immediately cause him to blush. What more taboos are there between you?
4. Relax your feet. If you accidentally touch his feet under the table, say hello and make out with him for a while.
It's a very cute way to flirt, especially when you're partying with friends or in public places. The expression on your face must continue to remain calm, the space under the table is up to you, pretend to inadvertently lean your leg on his leg, or use his foot to gently rub his foot all the way to the calf, and have some fun. He had a lively and hot "conversation" while secretly observing his reaction. Occasionally break the routine and tease each other, create some intimate secrets between young couples, and have different interesting effects. You will definitely startle him like this, but in order to be safe, so as not to mistake the "conversation" object, remember to recognize the other person's legs. This is the big test of your familiarity and tacit understanding with him.
5. Put your hand into his coat pocket and hold hands with him. Undefended natural closeness is the simplest romantic thing.
Undoubtedly, this is the most romantic thing in the world. Holding hands with children grows together. The greatest happiness lies in the most simple and unpretentious little things. If you can hold hands together for a lifetime, who says this is not the most touching romance. As time goes by, maybe the blush and shyness of the first love between you have long since disappeared, and then the simple and trivial thing of holding hands will continue to follow you all the time. Over the years, you will witness your love over time. Flirting is not only intended to mobilize the atmosphere for a while , flirting can also be affectionate.
6. Give TA a sweet kiss, a gift that never goes out of style.
Kiss is the best preservative for love, it nourishes and protects your relationship continuously. If one day you are no longer keen on this matter, the strength of this nourishment will also be weakened. There must be several habits from the beginning, such as holding hands, such as kissing. Kissing is one of the most symbolic behaviors of love. If you want, you can use this language to make intimate contact with him anytime, anywhere, on the cheek, on the lips, on the forehead, on the neck or on the bare shoulders. Communication is everywhere and practical. Act to show your attachment to each other and give him a sweet kiss, a gift that never goes out of style.
Flirting Taboo
Many people think that flirting is a waste of time. In fact, people usually have the wrong understanding of this and adopt the wrong method. As long as the method is right, you can get twice the result with half the effort; of course, when you "coquettish", please keep the following rules in mind:
1. Don't play the "little boy" cliché (innocent and helpless; it will tire her out quickly).
2. Don’t be flashy.
3. Don't show negativity.
4. Don't do boring things.
5. Don't look silly (like letting your nose hair stick out of your nostrils).
6. Don't whine.
Don't sit alone in the corner as a "wallflower" at your next gathering of friends. If you don't try, you'll never get what you want. If you don't want to be with Lonely Lights anymore, remember, it all starts with flirting.
