Basic Information
Chinese name: oral sex
Foreign name: fellatio
Object: Both the opposite sex
Definition: Touching the genitals of a sexual partner with parts such as the tongue and teeth
Related History
In the sexual descriptions of ancient Chinese literature books, the word Dianluandoufeng actually refers to the contact between the mouth and the genitals of men and women, and some eunuchs in the palace also like to let the palace maids give themselves oral sex and then soothe their lower bodies to satisfy themselves , see because the direction of the two people is completely opposite, Westerners are vividly called 69-style.
In the Middle Ages, oral sex was regarded as a taboo in the Western world. Before that, there was no special restriction. Oral sex was more or less accepted by those countries that implemented a system of rules and regular bathing.
But obvious taboos remained: in pre-Christian Rome, the act was seen as subjugation and control, as evidenced by two Latin words: irrumare (to lick with the mouth) and fellare (to be licked by the mouth). Under this system, a man is reduced in social status by licking (being controlled) during sex; the same logic allows a man to accept a woman or a man of lower status (such as a slave or debtor) to lick his penis, so that Can control the actions of people of inferior status. The Romans considered oral sex worse, even anal sex (those people were as unwelcome as dinner guests). Ironically, the women of Lesbos, who are believed to be the introducers of oral sex, say they use semen to bleach their lips.
So, in Greece, the person who "performs" oral sex is the subject, and the person who "receives" it is the object. In Roman times, sucking and cunnilingus were objects, so it was a shame for a man to do that. Oral sex between people of low social status is redundant and considered taboo. So the person who "performs" oral sex is the object (in the submissive state), and the person who "receives" oral sex is the subject (in the controlling state). Oral sex as a taboo also has public health considerations. In Rome, the genitals were considered unclean, and oral sex would leave the mouth dirty and ultimately lead to public health problems.
In the West and many other countries, oral sex is still illegal, as is sodomy. Oral sex is illegal in many states in the United States. Until 1977, a couple who accidentally exposed photos of oral sex to others were arraigned by the court and finally sentenced to 5 years in prison. However, more and more Americans are tolerant of oral sex, especially among young people, oral sex can be regarded as a routine, and it is rarely regarded as a pervert. There is also a clear tendency to have a higher incidence of oral sex among the more literate populations.
But those laws generally target same-sex people. The spirit of its definition was on full display in the Lewinsky scandal of 1998, when US President Bill Clinton repeatedly claimed that "I had no sexual relationship with that woman," but kept accepting that Monica Lewinsky blowjob. In fact, Lewinsky ended his relationship with Clinton, and then responded in a phone interview to whether or not to have sex: "No, we're just having fun."
The idea that oral sex is not real sex is widespread among younger generations, and is almost entirely different from the previous moralization of oral sex. Oral sex used to be considered dirty, at least it was one of the most intimate relationships between two people. One possible consequence of oral sex is "group sex", "blowjobs" on men, with lipstick on their penis as testimony.
Precautions
Pleasure is a very important element of sexuality. Therefore, the first step in breaking the psychological barrier of oral sex is to be happy with your partner's happiness. As for how to get your partner to enjoy oral sex, just follow these five principles:
Whether you feel dirty, or have other taboos like religion, try to discuss it openly and honestly with your partner.
Washing your body—especially important parts—before going to bed is a sign of being considerate to your partner.
Give your partner some time to adjust, and when your partner agrees, remember to encourage and praise each other.
Certain oral sex positions are different from intercourse, allowing the partner to choose the position. Of course, both parties can communicate well.
Many knowledge and skills can be learned through appropriate books or videotapes.
Related evaluation
In general, oral sex is a healthy, normal and common sexual act. The Sexual Function of Oral Sex People have come to realize that oral sex is more than normal. The prevalence of oral sex is certainly related to people's tolerant attitude towards sex, but it cannot be denied that it is related to the progress of today's technological civilization.
A survey data shows that 42% of women who have oral sex experience feel that their marriage is happy, while only 23% of women who have no oral sex experience feel happy. Oral sex is a blessing for people with various sexual dysfunctions. As long as it occurs between husband and wife, the sexual behavior that both parties can accept is normal sexual behavior. Physiologically speaking, oral sex is the closest or in some ways even surpassing sexual intercourse. Because the oral mucosa is soft, smooth and powerful, these can not only have a powerful and pleasant stimulating effect on the penis, but also produce obvious sexual excitement and pleasure for women. Due to the flexible change of the neck, oral sex can have different positions.
Oral sex without ejaculation as foreplay is a good arousal, some women have high sexual desire during menstruation, some men still want to have sex during women's menstrual period, oral sex is the best alternative, there is inflammation in the vagina or no Oral sex is also a good choice during the non-safe period of contraceptive measures. Many people just use oral sex as a play and still end up with vaginal sex, or the occasional fresh pleasure of cumshot, which is more acceptable.
Oral sex is more shameful for ordinary people to ask for it, but people who have tasted oral sex will like the pleasure brought by oral sex. Oral sex can also be regarded as one of the contents of foreplay. Men give women oral sex, or women give men Oral sex can allow both parties to enjoy the pleasure of sexual intercourse first, and some people may orgasm during oral sex. Oral sex can also stimulate the mood better, and it is a good way to improve sexual desire. When you witness your lover oral sex for yourself, or to give each other oral sex, it will be a great mental stimulation, which will make both parties have a lot of interest.
Related Disputes
Oral sex and cancer
US scientists say there is evidence that oral sex is indeed linked to cancer, and more research is needed to examine why human papillomavirus (HPV) is the main cause of the rise in oral cancer in white men. In the United States, HPV infection has now surpassed smoking as the culprit of oral cancer. The researchers found a 225 percent jump in oral cancer cases in the U.S. from 1974 to 2007, mostly among white men, said Gillieson of Ohio State University. "When you compare people with oral infections to those who don't, the single biggest factor is the number of oral sex partners," said Gillisson, who has been researching HPV and cancer for 15 years. "As the number of oral sex partners increases, so does the risk," Gleeson told reporters at the AAAS meeting. She said previous research has found that people who have more than six oral sex partners in their lifetimes have a higher risk of head and neck. The risk of HPV-related cancers was 8 times that of those with less than 6 oral sex partners.
health problems
Ancient Chinese Fang Zhongshu believed that semen was a very important substance to the human body, and it should be protected to minimize loss. Therefore, there was a so-called "closed without leaking, but also refined and nourishing the brain", and women hope to get this precious substance, It is believed that it can prolong life and youth forever. So the ancients called sexual intercourse as picking. And it is not uncommon to swallow semen during oral sex. Semen contains water, small amounts of salt, protein and fructose, and is slightly alkaline, so some people find it bitter and salty. Bodily fluids are harmless to each other, male or female, unless there is a sexually transmitted disease.
It is rumored that semen is nutritious and a good way to supplement protein. This is unlikely because semen has very little protein and only works during oral sex. But recent research shows that semen contains hormones or can affect the secretion of hormones. These hormones can improve a person's mood and reduce excessive stress. The absorption of hormones through mucous membranes, such as the mouth, vagina and anus, while swallowing semen And digestion has the same effect.
Sex partners should be careful not to force their teeth too hard to avoid biting and bruising the genitals, while oral sex is too rough and can also bruise the mouth. People with mandibular attachment disorder can find oral sex uncomfortable.
Although oral sex is considered safer than sexual and anal sex, chlamydia, human papillomavirus HPV, gonorrhea, herpes, hepatitis (overwork), and other sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) including HIV (the virus that causes AIDS) can be transmitted through oral sex. In particular, direct contact with the bodily fluids of HIV-infected individuals should be avoided.
Before oral sex, if the other party has secretions from the urethra, you must pay special attention, because normal healthy men will not have secretions in the urethra; in addition, if the man's penis or genitals have redness, rashes, protrusions , cracked skin, ulcers or ulcers, also be careful, these can be symptoms of herpes, cauliflower infection; in this case, do not have oral sex, and do not have sex.
The prevalence of oral sex not only causes the herpes to be exchanged; when the immunity of ordinary people is weakened, the first type of herpes simplex, which is easy to occur in the corner of the mouth, will therefore spread to the other party's genitals, and the second type of herpes virus of venereal diseases may also be related to oral sex. , and turn to the spat; In addition, oral sex may also cause the infection of viral hepatitis. According to European and American studies, sexual behavior is the main cause of hepatitis B and C infection in European and American people. Similarly, HIV may also enter the blood from semen and through the broken skin of the mouth!
In particular, oral sex partners should avoid wounds or soreness in the genitals and mouth, bleeding gums or recent brushing, flossing, dental procedures, and eating fragile foods such as chips Abrasion of the genitals in the mouth. Such wounds, even visible with a microscope, can increase the chances of an otherwise small sexually transmitted disease. These contacts can also be infected by common bacteria and viruses that hide on the genitals. For this reason, many medical experts recommend using a condom, or a plastic or rubber mouth protector, during oral sex.
If you blow air into a pregnant woman's vagina, air bubbles can travel down the placenta into the woman's circulatory system, resulting in air congestion and even death. This is rarely reported in the medical literature and is a rare occurrence. Still, blowing lightly into your pussy is pleasurable and safe.
religious view
Islam believes that in principle, it is legal between husband and wife, but it is necessary to pay attention to the issue of cleanliness and deny ejaculation in the mouth. The Buddhist view on this is that unethical behaviors must bear karma. In line with the Buddhist theory of karma, Buddhists believe that all the worldly things in the world can be seen by Buddhas and Bodhisattvas, so behaviors that are inconsistent with ethics will bear karma.
