Basic Information
Chinese name: Dating
Pronunciation: yuē huì
Foreign name: Dating
Hong Kong people call it: dating, going to the street, walking the street
Interpretation: to make an appointment to meet, now mostly refers to the meeting of men and women in love.
Dating style: walking, eating, watching movies, playing mahjong, etc.
Dating locations: parks, restaurants, playgrounds, movie theaters, etc.
1. Basic Interpretation
Dating pronunciation: yuē huì
(1) [appointment; engagement; date]: Miao date with, friends meet
So he hurriedly made a date with Xin Jiesugu to enter the venue. - "Two Marriages"
(2) [notify]: to inform; to order
The villain goes on a date with the brothers who are public in the group, and everyone pay attention to visit! - "Amazing at Two Moments"
Chapter 111 of "Records of the Kingdoms of the Eastern Zhou Dynasty": "Today, Qin's troops have been defeated, and their vigor has been taken away. The great king Cheng sent envoys to meet the kingdoms and attack Qin."
Dating is a kind of appointment meeting. Originally it refers to the activities of meeting in advance at a time and place. Originally, dating refers to the appointment of ordinary people to meet and fall in love.
Dating, Hong Kong people call it dating. It can also be called going to the street or walking on the street (in Cantonese, these words have the meaning of dating between men and women). The trilogy of dating commonly known by Hong Kong people is "walking the street" (shopping) - "food" (eating) - "watching the show" (watching a movie).
2. Detailed explanation
1. Pre-appointment to meet.
"Jingben Popular Novels: Director Zhang Zhicheng": "The next day, the second media went on a date, and both went to Zhang's house outside."
Qing Jiyun's "Notes on Yuewei Thatched Cottage·Huaixi Magazine 1": "Trust a matchmaker to recruit him, and date him at the villa."
Haoran's "Sunny Sky" Chapter 64: "Hey, aren't you on a date and meet in the evening?"
2. A pre-agreed meeting.
Mao Dun's "Exercise" 4: "I know you have a date."
Ding Ling's "The Magistrate's Family": "But the next day, I didn't have time to spare, so I had to make the appointment late again the next morning."
3. To meet up.
"Ancient and Modern Novels: Song Si Gong Makes a Big Trouble to Ban the Soul Zhang": "Ma Guanjuan will go to the front of the mansion to hang up, and on the one hand, he will make an appointment with Wang Dianzhi, and he will be investigated separately."
Ming Zhang Juzheng's "Answer to the book of Chu Ai, the Governor of the River Road": "If they date each other, they should be the same, and they are mavericks, and they would rather not be destroyed by the public?"
Xiao Hong's "Field of Life and Death" 4: "The fifth aunt and other village women came on a date with their small burdens."
3. Related introduction
purpose function
Dating is a part of human courtship activities, getting to know each other by talking with each other. Find out the degree of cooperation, use it as a test and choose a mate, while also cultivating and strengthening love in the process.
Single people generally go through multiple dates before they are successfully selected or selected as a mate. Dating between married couples is used to promote mutual affection and promote understanding, because people are constantly growing and changing. Dating someone else after marriage is a spiritual affair and is often morally condemned. But be aware that a meeting with ordinary friends or business people alone is generally not called a date.
20 Topics to Promote Relationships
The first priority in interpersonal communication is sincerity. Especially first-time men and women, sincerity is the first step in developing future intimacy. The so-called sincerity should be expressing your feelings without concealment, but expressing your feelings immediately on the first date may be too abrupt and give the impression of being too active.
Therefore, you might as well express your goodwill towards the other party first, and then use a relaxed and natural conversation to "lure" the conversation topic that the other party is interested in. Usually, people are most concerned about their own problems. As long as you ask the right questions and listen attentively, Israel will definitely regard us as bosom friends, and then give something back, so that we have the opportunity to express ourselves, interact with each other, and the strangers on the first date. Embarrassed, it became a long-term conversation. Here are some topics that can promote intimacy:
1. What kind of work do you do? (Why do you like this work? What is the biggest challenge? What is the biggest setback? What are your hopes for your work and future?)
2. What are the major achievements in life so far? (Are there any major setbacks?)
3. What do you love most? (Why are you interested)
4. What is the most memorable happy event? (Or the unfortunate event?)
5. With work, what would you do?
6. How do you like to go on vacation?
7. Do you want to be famous? (Why)
8. If you had a million, how would you use it?
9. In your family, how was your growth from childhood to adulthood?
10. What personality strengths did you have in the process of growing up? (Are there any weaknesses that you are afraid of?)
11. What kind of relationship do you hope to develop?
12. Are you romantic? (How romantic?)
13. What do you think is the difference between men and women?
Dating 14. What would make you happy?
15. What makes you sad?
16. When you were a child, what did you hope to do when you grew up?
17. What do you think is the difference between you and others?
18. Do you believe in gods? (What do you think about gods?)
19. To what extent do you think your personal behavior has had an impact on changing society?
20. What do you think are important events in society? (If possible, what actions would you take?)
21. What places of interest have you been to before?
22. Talk about the friends around the other party. What qualities of your friends attract you?
23. Talking about brothers and sisters can deepen understanding and activate the atmosphere. [1]
Some of the above topics seem to involve too much personal issues, especially for people who are dating for the first time, but please remember that few people don't care about themselves, as long as they are not rigid and question each other like a household registration, everyone is happy Discuss your own problems.
Skill
The date the other party came to the appointment, you and she finally stood together. The next step is to actually fall in love. You have to decide the next step according to the specific situation of the other party. Use different methods in different situations.
① Park: Visiting the park is one of the most common ways for young couples to fall in love. But instead of sitting idly on a park bench, you should wander or sit on a swing and get physical so that both parties can relieve tension.
② take a walk: It is also a good idea to walk on the road to shine the moonlight, but it is important that you let her walk on the side of the sidewalk and keep in step with her as much as possible. The initial distance between the two should be twenty centimeters.
③Dancing: We have read above about the disadvantages of dancing on the first date, but if the other party is keen on this, you have to go with the flow, and you can eliminate the gap between each other in the fierce beating.
④ Exercise: You can increase enthusiasm in shouting, but you can't be as good as her.
⑤ Movie: You must know that the plot is suitable for first love couples, don't be sad, otherwise he will think it is a bad omen. And don't just make fun of it, or she'll think you're not good taste. And not being able to talk while watching a movie is its downside.
⑥ Restaurant: Pay attention to finding a corner position, so as to avoid everyone's eyes and reduce the psychological tension of your first love girlfriend, and you have to ask her to sit with her back to the door, so that her eyes will be on you. The center, while you yourself can see the whole restaurant situation, can guide the content of the conversation in a calm atmosphere. But don't try to find a topic in a restaurant crowd unless it's particularly interesting or necessary.
⑦Museum: If your girlfriend is elegant and quiet, you can consider going to the museum with her, which may unexpectedly create a good atmosphere. But you can't know nothing or little about what's displayed in the museum. It's not good for you to tell it to you by your girlfriend.
⑧ Competition or performance: Let the girl watch sports games or acrobatic performances, let her know the world she is not very familiar with, and at the same time you can express your own opinions while watching, which can deepen her impression of you.
⑨ Playground: It is easy to make people excited and can create a frank and open atmosphere. The body will also naturally approach, but you must not have the idea of "taking the opportunity to fight", otherwise, if the woman is wary, you will spoil the good things yourself.
Date ⑩ Choice of restaurant: Girls will like elegant and tidy small restaurants, exotic western restaurants, or they can go to the top-floor restaurant of a high-rise building, and they can enjoy the city night while eating.
Precautions when eating
a. Take the initiative to invite her to dinner, because most girls are reluctant to say that they are hungry.
b. Ask her what she wants to eat first, and if she doesn't express her opinion, you decide the menu yourself. Don't push and push, as you think that you are polite to the other party, but it will actually embarrass the other party. Be careful not to stick to your teeth when ordering as that will spoil the atmosphere.
c. Try not to make any noise when eating, and it is advisable to talk while eating.
d. You can eat as much as you can, girls usually like boys with a strong appetite.
Notes on drinking:
a. Never force your girlfriend to drink alcohol on the first date, it will make her unhappy, and she can refuse to date you again under the pretext that you force her to drink.
b. Don't pretend to be massive, whether you can or not.
c. If she drinks and her face turns red, you should praise her.
be late
Run to the date, gasp for a sincere apology, and then naturally make an excuse, such as "There is a traffic jam on Zhongshan Road, so I jumped out of the car and ran over. I was out of breath." Or: "I I want to find a gift you like and give it to you, so I can't make it in time..." In short, make it up so that she can't notice that you were late because of your negligence, and it has nothing to do with the car or gift. This kind of promise helps to dispel the dissatisfaction of the girlfriend. The motive is good, and it cannot be regarded as a malicious deception. However, being late is something that can never be repeated. If you tell a lot of lies, the stuffing will eventually be revealed.
goodbye skills
It's best to say goodbye to her at the appropriate station on a date, wait with her for the bus until it arrives, and leave when she gets in and drives out. In this way, women will not feel that you are not too tight. If she is willing to let you take her home, it means she has a crush on you. This is when the timing must be separated, which means the first date should end when the girl still wants to be with you. This is the trick to make her look forward to her next date. At the same time, you should use the following invitation techniques. For example, when you are waiting for the bus, you ask her: "Today is the summer solstice. Do you know what the summer solstice means?" She said she didn't know, and the bus came. You say, "Okay, I'll tell you on the next date". Repeat the next time and place again and drop her in the car. Or, she said when she was about to break up: "I had a good night with you". You have to press your head right away and say, "That's great, I'll make you happier next time." Then repeat appropriately when and where your next date will be.
Activities
Usually, after work (after get off work, weekends and holidays), activities that both parties are interested in, such as shopping, watching movies, singing karaoke, eating, drinking, and outings, etc., get to know each other by getting along and talking.
Some men and women begin to have intimate behaviors, such as kissing, and even sex, without knowing each other, which can affect the relationship—both positively and negatively.
Next steps after a successful date
If the two like each other with a high degree of cooperation, the next step is to choose engagement or marriage depending on the situation. There are also people who only want to live together and do not want to get married. The reason may be that they do not trust the marriage system and registration laws, or think there is no need to get married.
4. Psychological
Dating is the basis of love between men and women, and it is also a romantic way to talk about love. Dating can make love more difficult.
When the temperature rises, you can also better understand the other party, because some of the other party's behaviors, expressions and body language,
We can understand his psychology, let's talk about it in detail, look at his love psychology through the five expressions of the other party when dating!
Passionate
Dating with a bright smile and radiant enthusiasm
He is like the sun, passionate, with a bright smile, and every movement is very elegant and generous. At the first meeting, he showed a very free and easy side, his words were humorous and eloquent, and MMs would be infected by his emotions unconsciously.
analyze:
As soon as we met, he showed such enthusiasm and always wanted to get close to you. No doubt he had a strong interest in you, so he tried his best to show his charm, expressing his emotions through expressions, words and actions, hoping to arouse you. attention and win your heart.
Suggest:
Such a man is easy to get along with, understands taste, and is very influential, and it is easy to impress MM's heart. However, his feelings are strong, he will quickly get into a relationship, and he will quickly withdraw when the relationship fades. If you are deeply attracted by him, please be vigilant at all times, and try to keep your love fresh in order to catch his heart.
Demeanor
Dating is polite and always smiling
The other party is very kind, with a smile that never pays for his life on his face, charming four shots, and very graceful. Seeing him for the first time will make MM heart beat and feel that "he" is the Prince Charming in his mind.
analyze:
In fact, his charming smile and polite behavior are only because he wraps himself tightly. On the surface, it looks like he is very close and close to you, but in fact his heart is far away from you. Because he is afraid of being hurt and hurting others, he will try his best to hide his true thoughts and feelings.
Suggest:
Don't take this kind of man lightly. Don't immediately mistake him for having a good impression of you. He just doesn't dare to express his true thoughts. He carries a heavy shell like a snail to protect himself. You need to calm down and show your gentle, kind side, let him relax slowly, so as to remove the layers of pretense and reveal your heart to you.
shy
nervous, restless
He blushed easily, lowered his head and dared not look directly at you, clenched his hands tightly, had a "stutter" when he spoke, trembled slightly, and kept playing with the little things around him. Seeing him for the first time will make MM feel that he is unmanly and uninteresting.
analyze:
Don't ignore his existence or look down on him because of this. The nervousness and anxiety he showed was mostly because he attached too much importance to and cared about you, and hoped to show the best side in front of you, so that he could not restrain his inner excitement, his expression and words became tense and flustered.
Suggest:
Such a man is very emotional and passive, hoping to be cared for and loved. If you like him, you should treat him with an equal eye, influence him with a sincere heart, and take the initiative to communicate with him. He will gradually calm down, show a sense of dependence on you, and hope to become your intimate lover and cherish you. lifetime.
serious
Dating calm and serious brow slightly locked
He behaves calmly and unconsciously becomes serious, pursing his lips and frowning, his eyes closely following you, paying attention to your every move, as if he wants to see you thoroughly from the outside to the inside, like a detective, so that MM became nervous.
analyze:
He pays so much attention to you that he even keeps asking you questions and giving you all kinds of opinions. This means that he keeps his distance from you before he knows you, is suspicious of you, and is considering whether to have a relationship with you. This is all a manifestation of his lack of self-confidence, and he will not give his true feelings easily.
Suggest:
It's hard to take it easy on a date with a guy like that because he's too picky. In the face of his opinion, there is no need to argue too much, and don't be in a hurry to express your heart. Just be a quiet listener and respond in a timely manner. This will also allow you to understand what he really wants in order to better initiate a love strategy.
Free and easy
Dating is completely relaxed and informal
He looked relaxed, as if meeting a familiar old friend. Sitting casually, leaning back, or spreading your legs, resting your cheeks with one hand, whatever is comfortable. Seeing him for the first time will confuse MM.
analyze:
The first meeting is so casual and completely relaxed, which shows that he does not see you as the opposite sex and has no love for you. He likes being with you, but he doesn't think about further emotional development with you. He just sees you as a "buddy" and wants to talk to you casually and relaxed without any restraints.
Suggest:
Such a man is very casual and talks about "bro" loyalty. If you are not interested in him, stop here and end the love game; if he is interested in you, you have to show your sexiness and charm. When he treats you as a woman, your relationship can be expected to escalate into a lover.
