Entry overview: The broken place generally refers to the rupture of the hymen with the entry of the penis when a woman has sex with a man for the first time, accompanied by a certain pain, which is called the broken place. But the hymen is not a membrane, so the rupture is inaccurate. The break is also called the first night.
Precautions
For the first and first few times of sex life, it is of course good to be satisfied. But there are also people who are not very satisfied, because the newlyweds often lack sexual knowledge, and the two sides are just in contact, so they are easily nervous, shy and fearful, and it is normal for them to have a bad sex life. However, it is better to have a good wedding night. Specifically, pay attention to the following points:
1. Pay attention to external genital hygiene
Both you and your husband should wash your genitals with warm water and mild soap on your wedding night. The newlyweds are busy and tired due to purchasing items for marriage and entertaining relatives and friends. The men's smegma and the women's vaginal secretions increase. If they are not cleaned, it is very unsanitary and will affect the sexual desire and health of both men and women.
2. take contraceptive measures
If both men and women do not want to have children immediately, and do not take contraceptives, both husband and wife have concerns, and the woman is more afraid of pregnancy, so her thoughts cannot be highly concentrated, and sexual life will be affected. If the woman takes contraceptives in time, or the man wears a condom, it is convenient for both parties, and her energy is concentrated, and her sexual life will achieve satisfactory results.
3. Cooperate closely and be considerate to each other
At the beginning of sex life, both parties will feel shy, especially the woman is more obvious, the psychological state is more complicated, and the spirit is a little nervous. You have to ask your husband to move gently, and if it fails, you can try several times. The woman should also take the initiative to cooperate, overcome the tension and fear, relax the spirit actively, the sexual excitement will be aroused quickly, the vagina will secrete a lot of exciting fluid, and the lubrication effect is good, which can reduce the pain during sexual intercourse, and can also reduce the hymen. The pain caused by abrasions .
4. Prevent the inflammation of damaged hymen
After the hymen is ruptured, there is some slight pain and a small amount of bleeding. It should be wiped with sterile gauze or cotton wool. It is best to have sexual intercourse every 2-3 days to prevent the wound from becoming inflamed. If the hymen ruptures and bleeds a lot, the tear is deep, and the pain is unbearable, you should seek medical attention.
5. Correctly treat premature ejaculation
In the first sexual intercourse, the man may fail to have sexual intercourse due to premature ejaculation due to lack of sexual knowledge or excessive excitement. You should forgive this situation. This is not premature ejaculation. With the growth of sexual knowledge and the accumulation of sexual experience after marriage, the two sides will cooperate tacitly and will soon return to normal. After ejaculation, the man has a refractory period, and the refractory period has passed. Sexual intercourse can be attempted again, often with success.
ways to reduce pain
1. Spend more time on kissing, hugging and caressing or "foreplay", and insert it after the woman is fully wet;
2. If it is still dry, use lubricating oil or saliva, it will be easier;
3. The woman tells him the feeling in a timely manner, and the man moves as gently as possible, and the amplitude can be smaller;
4. Change the position, for example, side by side or the woman is in the upper position, it will be improved;
5. If the pain persists at this time, or if you often bleed after sex, you should see a doctor to prevent illness.
6. For girls to correctly understand sexual intercourse, this is a necessary process in a new life and a sign of a mature life. Excessive mental stress can easily cause vaginismus, which is not conducive to completing sexual intercourse.
contraception
The best way to avoid birth control is to avoid the day of ovulation. Therefore, for women who have been engaged, it is best to measure their basal body temperature. At this time, you can use the basal body temperature to pre-determine the date of marriage to avoid the day of ovulation. However, many people decide their wedding date half a year or even a year ago, and it is not easy to predict the ovulation day a year ago.
However, if your periods have been regular, you can predict when your period will be at the beginning, middle or end of the month. Ovulation is about 14 days before your next menstrual period, so just work the other way around and you can choose a good day at the beginning, middle or end of the month. However, even for women with regular menstrual cycles, it is still not 100% correct to use basal body temperature to determine the first night after half a year or even a year. What's more, many places (especially in rural areas) still follow the old habit of deciding the date of marriage based on the lunar calendar, which makes it even more difficult to think about natural contraception.
If this is the case, you should be after the date of marriage. That is to say, one month or one and a half months before this day, the basal body temperature is recorded, so that the wedding day can be roughly predicted when the ovulation period is. If the wedding day or the honeymoon period is just one week before the scheduled menstruation, that is, 4 to 5 days after the basal body temperature has entered the high temperature period, you do not need to worry about pregnancy, and you can enjoy your honeymoon with peace of mind.
If the first night of the wedding is during the ovulation period (5 days before and after the day when the basal body temperature is low) or when the basal body temperature has entered the low temperature period, there is a possibility of pregnancy. Therefore, during the honeymoon, if you do not want to have children too early, you should still find ways to use contraception. Contraceptive methods using condoms, uterine rings, I don't want to recommend it to you right now. Because if you are not familiar with how to use it, it is likely that contraception will fail; besides, if you take out these things during the newlyweds, just thinking about it will make you feel unappetizing.
The most suitable oral contraceptive pill or birth control injection for newlyweds. You can start taking it 1 month before marriage and continue to take it during your honeymoon trip. It is usually started on the 5th day of menstrual cramps, 1 capsule per day for 20 days, so that the purpose of complete contraception can be achieved. The contraceptive effect of this method can reach 99%, and it has a therapeutic effect on gynecological diseases such as irregular menstruation, excessive menstruation, excessive frequency, dysmenorrhea or premenstrual tension in some women. It really kills two birds with one stone.
