When parting, you will be more engaged when you leave
Climax Index: ★★★★
Juan Juan, 32 years old, private owner
Zhang Qiang and I have been married for 10 years, and our relationship has gradually changed from strong to dull. Maybe it's because of being together every day, we also want to work hard for sex, but it's always until the last minute that we can't get interested.
It was the eve of Zhang Qiang going to work in Shanghai. When I thought of being separated for more than half a year, I suddenly felt a little reluctant. That night, we were entangled with each other all night, and Zhang Qiang also became very gentle and considerate. At that time, I had a sense of fear that I could not grasp the future. I was afraid that after Zhang Qiang went to Shanghai, the work would not be as easy as it is now, and I was also afraid that his departure would make me unable to take care of my family and children alone. Therefore, we can only use exile again and again to ease this melancholy feeling.
That night, I had my first orgasm in 10 years of marriage. It felt like I was going to fly, and we both forgot about the long-term separation that was coming. I even said over and over again in my heart: "Take me away, take me away, I am willing to follow you forever."
Now, Zhang Qiang's work in Shanghai is coming to an end. And the life of a person for more than half a year has not made me feel so difficult. Maybe it was the passion of that night. When I was lonely, as long as I thought of it, there would be a burst of sweetness in my heart.
Expert opinion
As the saying goes: "A small divorce is better than a newly married", for couples who have been married for many years, it is easy to become tired of sex. Therefore, a brief separation can regulate the relationship between husband and wife, especially on the eve of separation, there will be reluctance and attachment to each other, and they will be particularly devoted to sex. Sex at this time is very easy to produce orgasm.
Wedding night, like waves on the beach
Climax Index: ★★★
Xiaowen, 29 years old, teacher
Lin Tao and I met through a blind date. At that time, we both felt that we were getting older and we were a good fit for each other, so we soon decided to get married. But in fact, until the eve of the wedding, I was a little disappointed. After all, I don't know much about him. It seems that it is not enough to say how much I love him.
On the wedding night, I was a little nervous. Lin Tao hugged me tightly and promised me that he would treat me well in this life. He also said that he and his married colleagues had joined the Wife Fear Association, and that in the future all wages would be handed over to me for safekeeping. I was amused when he said that, and I quickly relaxed in his arms. Next, he tentatively asked me how I felt, carefully becoming one with me. It felt like the sound of the waves on the distant sea, mixed with the whistling of a storm, like the waves lapping the beach, leaving nowhere to run, and I had to be drowned by it. I said to myself in my heart, from now on, I am his.
The tacit sex that night made me feel the orgasm for the first time, and Lin Tao's meticulous care after marriage made me truly accept him from the bottom of my heart. We love each other more because of sex. In my opinion, the climax is the complete trust in him, and it also means that the lives of two people are closely connected from now on.
Expert opinion
You know, not every couple will agree on sex, and many couples who end up breaking up are probably because of sexual incompatibility. Therefore, the wedding night is the best time to test the sex of the couple. Sexual harmony contributes to a stronger marriage, and an orgasm is the icing on the cake. It is precisely when Xiaowen experiences the wonderful realm of sex that she has more confidence in marriage.
After a quarrel, the depth of love is the end of hatred
Climax Index: ★★★
Lin Ying, 29 years old, translator
My relationship with my husband, the guard, has always been good. But I don't know why recently, we often quarreled over some trivial matters of sesame and mung bean.
That night, we quarreled again, and I ran out in the heavy rain. The guards kept chasing me from behind, holding me and not allowing me to leave. I cried and shouted to him: "I can't stand you anymore, let's get a divorce!"
However, before I could finish speaking, my mouth was blocked by the passionate kiss of the guard, and then he carried me home. That night, we had sex like never before. I remember at the moment of orgasm, I was in tears, maybe it was a mixture of despair, pain, love and resentment. At first I scolded him, but at the end I hugged him tightly. All in all, that moment was so unforgettable.
The next day, we reconciled again and agreed not to quarrel. I think it's my physical intuition that tells me we still love each other, despite our flaws.
Expert opinion
Some orgasms come very strangely, maybe an inexplicable quarrel, a jealous fight, or even by the window of a high-rise building. These, without a doubt, are catalysts for desire. Therefore, although Lin Ying and the guard are quarreling, it is a small quarrel and is ready for sex to happen. And the sex that happened after the quarrel and divorce will only make each other cherish each other more.
4 truths you must know
Someone said: "Every man wants a woman to remember himself, especially in bed, and wants to be a woman's god." But sometimes God also misunderstands a woman's sexual psychology, let us understand the truth of orgasm together.
only men have orgasms, women don't feel it
Scientific research tells us that it only takes two minutes for a man to have an orgasm from impulse to end. But for women, two minutes is not enough, they need longer stretches. Most men and women are pursuing the realm of simultaneous orgasms, but apparently women can't keep up with their rhythm. And if men have good control of rhythm and progression, women will reach orgasm in sync.
Orgasm has nothing to do with libido
The occurrence of libido has a lot to do with sex hormones. When the endocrine system in the body is abnormal and the hormone level is low, the desire will also be reduced, resulting in abnormal uterine contractions, and the sensitivity to orgasm will also be reduced. So to get an orgasm, you must have a normal desire, and as the desire deepens, the orgasm will come faster.
Sex can be multiple times, but only one orgasm
After the first orgasm, women will enter a period of inactivity. At this point, if she has already had an orgasm during the foreplay, then after a period of intercourse, she will easily have a second orgasm, which sounds like a good thing to do again.
No matter how hard she tried, she could never reach an orgasm
Faced with the climax, we have to be entertaining, don't let it bother you. According to a Swiss survey, relaxation is the most important factor, and the only factor, for a woman to orgasm. So, you should stay relaxed and happy. If she's nervous, you can tell her, "We have time."
[Expert Comments] Climax doesn't need to happen every day
As the saying goes, you are happy so I am happy. Many men like to ask their wives after the fact: "Have you orgasm?" They believe that only by bringing satisfaction to women can they be happy, which represents the desire for conquest and achievement of men. But many women don't have an easy orgasm, and sometimes they don't even know if they've reached an orgasm. Therefore, in order not to refute each other's face, many women can only fake orgasm.
Men regard it as the ideal state of sex to reach orgasm with a woman, but even sex that cannot reach orgasm is not imperfect, because no matter what kind of relationship is in constant change. If you want to maintain a good marriage relationship, it needs to be carefully maintained and nurtured. And in the most intimate moment with your lover, it is the moment of cultivating feelings, your tenderness and care will make both parties feel satisfied and happy.
Therefore, both husband and wife do not need to force women to achieve orgasm every time they have sex, as long as both parties are satisfied and happy. As for those who have never experienced orgasm for many years of marriage, it is considered as female sexual dysfunction, and it is necessary to seek medical treatment in the hospital.
