用爱学英文~爱到底是什么?
Vocabulary of Love:
love = 爱
nonlove = 无爱
liking = 喜欢
friendship = 友谊
obsession =痴迷
attraction = 吸引
intimacy = 亲密
passion = 激情
commitment = 承诺
interpersonal relationship =人际关系
infatuate love = passion without commitment or intimacy
迷恋之爱 = 没有承诺与亲密感觉的情欲
empty love = commitment without physical attraction or mutual understanding
空虚的爱 = 没有互相吸引与亲密感的承诺
romantic love = passion + intimacy
浪漫的爱 = 激情 + 亲密
companion love = intimacy + commitment
友谊爱 = 亲密关系 + 承诺
fatuous love = passion + commitment
虚幻的爱 =激情 + 承诺
consummate love = passion + intimacy + commitment
完整的爱 = 激情 + 亲密 + 承诺
「爱情三角理论」 The triangular theory of love
美国心理学家罗伯特·史坦伯格 (Robert Sternberg) 制定了简单的理论来定义爱情。他的「爱情三角理论」“the triangular theory of love” 是从人际关系中提链出的。基本上,爱情简单是由三部分组成的三角形:
Passion: 热情;激情
Passion ebbs and flows like hunger. Artists and creative people tend to be expressive in showing their passions, and longing for the fuels that keep the passionate feelings going.
激情的起起落落就像饥饿。艺术家与爱创作的创意的人往往爱表现出中热情,也向往寻找让激烈的感情持续的燃料。
Intimacy: 熟悉;亲密;亲近
Intimacy emerges as two or more people spend quality time together. Friends, coworkers, teachers and students, who have become familiar with each other often develop a sense of Platonic intimacy.
当两个或更多的人一起度过美好时光,亲密关系就产生了。朋友,同事,老师与学生,在熟悉中往往会发展柏拉图式的亲密感。
Commitment: 承诺,保证;承担的义务
Sincere commitments are shown through the mutual knowledge that, the ones in a committed relationship will always care for each other, and they can always trust, and count on their counterparts in their moments of vulnerabilities.
真诚的承诺在相互了解展现,互相关系的人始终会照顾彼此,也可以信任对方,并在脆弱的时刻时,依靠信任的人。
Balanced and Imbalanced Triangles 平衡与不平衡的三角形:
几何形状的任何一侧如果太多或不足够都会导致不平衡的形状。激情加上亲密的浪漫之爱往往不长久,因为公式中缺少了承诺。当热情消退了,两个也就人成为适应彼此的老朋友,而爱情也是专注在陪伴彼此的友伴之爱。如果长久的吸引力加上相互的陪伴,可是没有互相的了解与共识,没有意义的关系就成为了虚幻的爱。
如果三角形的三边都保持坚固,平衡的三角形等于是完整的爱。平衡的结构会被情侣想在一起的意念保护,而他们的感情世界中,没有更快乐的地方。
romantic love = passion + intimacy = temporary
浪漫的爱 = 激情 + 亲密= 暂时性的
companion love = intimacy + commitment = old friends
友谊爱 = 亲密关系 + 承诺 = 老朋友
fatuous love = passion + commitment = meaningless
虚幻的爱 =激情 + 承诺= 缺少意义
consummate love = passion + intimacy + commitment = happy and fortunate
完整的爱 = 激情 + 亲密 + 承诺 = 幸福快乐